My Problem...

I've had a problem for a number of years involving my business and I don't know how to make it better.

You see, I do childcare in my home. This means that not only do I care for other people's children, but that MY children have to share me and their stuff. Since for the youngest three that's always been the way of it, it's not been too much of an issue, but it is for me. I feel tremendous guilt about putting my kids in this situation. But, that's not my real problem.

My real problem is that I can be very dismissive of my own children when the parents of the other kids are around. I really just want the parents to leave so I can get on with my life, so if my kids start talking to the adults, which they always do, I just try to hush them up. "Go do your homework" "did you pack your stuff for dance?" anything to get my kids out of the situation and get these people out of my house. But then, when the parents are dismissive to my kids?It makes my blood boil! Today, the parent of one of the children was singing this song she sings to her child and The Princess wanted to hear it again."sing it again,sing it again" she says. The mom looks at The Princess and says "I'll sing it for her tonight at dinner." The Princesses face fell and I was so angry. She's 4, she wants to hear the song again and guess what? Your child is going to be 4 and insistent and demanding some day as well. I'm just annoyed by this and feeling as well that it's my fault because I am teaching these people how to treat my children. But I love my kids, I do, I do. I just want these people to leave. How do I fix this thing about myself?